The other day I wrote about how I kicked my narcissistic ex-lover to the curb. Today I felt a tiny bit bad (silly me) and reached out. Because I am the president of our social club, I didn’t want to use my power so to speak to keep him from coming to club meetings or events. As much as I didn’t want to see him, I knew it was an abuse of my position to keep him from coming to such things, so I wrote a short email saying I can’t keep him from coming so if he does, I will keep my distance.
Here’s what he wrote back:
Don’t flatter yourself, you dont keep me from doing anything. I do what I want, when I want, always have, always will.
For God’s sake pull yourself together, if for no other reason than for your son’s sake. You’re all he’s got, he needs you to be stable and rational.
Stop playing this poor victim card all the time. Nobody has done you any harm, quite the opposite. Think about me teaching you driving, think about seeing your home town. You had a great fling at a point in your life when the chances of that happening were slim to none.
Give it a rest.
Sorry for the big font, I didn’t know how to shrink it.
See how he is calling my mental stability into question, and insulting my ability to find a love at my age. Ouch. I fired right back at him again to put him in his place, but you can see how a narcissist will call your sanity into question and make you wonder if indeed you are becoming unhinged.
He used and abused me and he is calling me unstable. He should look in the mirror.
So it appears what friendship we had is over, but it’s about time. He brought nothing to the table as the business types say – all he did was ignore and then hoover, be cruel then kind. I wanted off the roller coaster and it appears that I might finally be.
Thanks for reading. Peace.
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The Betrayed Widow 